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Welcome to Two Lenses
Have you ever wondered what the world looks like from your toddler’s perspective—and how different it might be from what you see?
These stories are also an invitation to see both sides. Not to fix anything, just to understand a little better. And maybe feel a little less alone in the process.
I do. Most of the time.
When I see a child crying over a broken banana or lying down on the street because a shoelace came loose. Or absolutely absorbed, mesmerized by pouring liquids from one cup to another. I watch. I wonder. I try to understand.
And when I don't, I research things. I have a PhD. I'm trained to look for answers. So, I do. Books about child development. Studies on emotional regulation. Podcasts about cognitive psychology and child development.
I also need a creative outlet. Once, I did an exercise: write the same scene from different points of view. I wrote about a parent and a toddler. It was fun. People found it relatable. And I noticed something else: I remembered far more from a story than from an article about the prefrontal cortex. So I started making stories to learn. And if they help me make sense of things and see through a different lens, I thought they might help someone else, too.
When you see the grocery store through their overwhelmed senses, the meltdown makes more sense. When you understand what bedtime feels like to someone whose brain can't yet process "tomorrow," the resistance isn't defiance—it's genuine fear and confusion.
So, on this blog, I am writing dual-perspective stories—the same moment told twice, once from a toddler's point of view and once from their caregiver's. They're fiction, written for fun, for the pleasure of writing, and hopefully for the pleasure of reading.
These stories are also an invitation to see both sides. Not to fix anything, just to understand a little better. And maybe feel a little less alone in the process.
If you find a moment of relatedness in them—a "oh my god, YES, that's exactly what it feels like"—that's wonderful. That's the whole point, really.
I may also share some interesting learning along the way. But more than anything, this blog is a creative project and will always be a work in progress—just as learning about ourselves and our little ones is.
A Few Important Notes
I value my children's privacy (and others'). I don't want them finding silly stories from their childhood online in 15 years. The same goes for other families I observe. Therefore, all stories here are fiction—anonymized, fictionalized, inspired by observation, research, conversations with other parents, and yes, my own experiences, but not literal accounts.
This is not parenting advice. I'm not a parenting expert, therapist, or pediatrician. These are creative stories, not recommendations. If you're concerned about your child's development or your own well-being, please talk to a qualified professional.
I write with both mums and dads in the picture. Sometimes that means two dads, sometimes two mums, sometimes one parent, sometimes more than two. The family structures may differ, but the roles, emotions, and moments often overlap. My hope is that people in many kinds of families can still find themselves here.